Unconditional Love Banke has been in the banking industry for 7years when she met Toyin. Though, she was in her early 30s but not too desperate about getting married because of the busy nature of her job as a marketer. When Toyin initially approached her, she object because of Tony her fiancé in Germany.
Luckily enough for Toyin, Banke's cousin saw Tony with his wife and children in Germany. She then asked Tony in a way that he couldn't deny it and that was the end of the distance relationship. Initially it was painful for Banke because she practically foot all the bills for Tony's journey. She eventually got over it and now gave Toyin a full attention.
Banke did not know how to present Toyin to her dad because her mum is late. Her hesitation was due to the fact that; Toyin was still learning how to sell car spare parts, he lives in a room, he has only matress and fan and to crown it all-he is a Primary 6 graduate. He can not even use the base of a bottle to write zero. It was that bad.
After much thought and consiferation, they boldly went to meet her dad and to their greatest surprise, Banke's dad accepted him and pray for them. But, papa asked both of them thrice 'are you sure you love each other?', they both chorus 'yes papa'. Then he told them to go and read the true meaning of love in 1Corinthians 13vs4-8. Which they did and make up their mind to stand in love, come what may.
It was not an elaborate wedding. They went to the registry and pastors came to bless them during the engagement with less than 40 friends and family in attendance.
They had a very humble beginning! But they were not lazy. As at the time I met this unique family in year 2006, their 3 children were already in the secondary school which is the best in town till date.
God blessed them with two boys and a beautiful girl. The man have been to over 10 oversea countries. He knows how to use computer more than his wife and he is indeed an international business man.
When the children were still very small, they ask their mum if he actually marry their daddy because of money and she was glad to tell them how they started. So they probed further, 'why did you now marry him?' then she said 'is because I love him, he respect me and he is very humble'. From that moment, those children started teaching their dad how to speak simple and correct English and he also prove to be a good learner.
I miss them so much when he moved them to the USA. They are such a happy family. Banke's friends who neglected her for marrying a low class fellow now wish they are in her position.
On the other hand, Banke miss one thing! Toyin did not allow her to further her education to her desired level. He stopped her from the banking job and establish her in a big way. But she really want to have her Masters degree and probably a PhD-according to her.
So do you think the man is selfish for not allowing her pursue her career or he's afraid? I think he just doesn't see a need for it! What do you think?
"Sisters, if you refuse to submit to your husband, you're missing out on the beauty of your very protection. It's important that when you're walking down the aisle, you believe in your husband & are ready to submit to him as he submits to The Lord. If you're not ready for that protection, you're not ready to get married. Submission doesn't mean that your husband runs all over you. Its totally opposite. You two can talk about everything but at the end of the day, God holds him responsible for the decisions in the house. Even if you don't totally understand his leadership SUBMIT & God will show you why and open crazy doors. If you constantly shut your husband down you will never find out why... where or when AND it wrecks your mans confidence. Pray earnestly that God leads your hubby through Jesus Christ. Submission is beautiful, if only we would stop running from it" -Heather Lindsey
A woman baked cake for members of her family and an extra one for a hungry passerby. She kept the extra cake on the window sill, for whosoever would take it away. Every day, a hunchback came and took away the cake. Instead of expressing gratitude, he muttered the following words as he went his way: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” This went on, day after day. Every day, the hunchback came, picked up the cake and uttered the words: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” The woman felt irritated. “Not a word of gratitude,” she said to herself… “Everyday this hunchback utters this jingle! What does he mean?” One day, exasperated, she decided to do away with him. “I shall get rid of this hunchback,” she said. And what did she do? She added poison to the cake she prepared for him!
As she was about to keep it on the window sill, her hands trembled. “What is this I am doing?” she said. Immediately, she threw the cake into the fire, prepared another one and kept it on the window sill. As usual, the hunchback came, picked up the cake and muttered the words: “The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!”
The hunchback proceeded on his way, blissfully unaware of the war raging in the mind of the woman. Every day, as the woman placed the cake on the window sill, she offered a prayer for her son who had gone to a distant place to seek his fortune. For many months, she had no news of him. She prayed for his safe return.
That evening, there was a knock on the door. As she opened it, she was surprised to find her son standing in the doorway. He had grown thin and lean. His garments were tattered and torn. He was hungry, starved and weak. As he saw his mother, he said, “Mom, it’s a miracle I’m here. While I was but a mile away, I was so famished that I collapsed. I would have died, but just then an old hunchback passed by. I begged of him for a morsel of food, and he was kind enough to give me a whole cake. As he gave it to me, he said, “This is what I eat everyday: today, I shall give it to you, for your need is greater than mine!”
As the mother heard those words, her face turned pale. She leaned against the door for support. She remembered the poisoned cake that she had made that morning. Had she not burnt it in the fire, it would have been eaten by her own son, and he would have lost his life!
It was then that she realized the significance of the words: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” Do good and Don’t ever stop doing good, even if it is not appreciated at that time.
If you like this, share it with others and I bet so many lives would be touched.
Authors from the Australian National University, Monash and La Trobe
provide the most complete answer yet: the size of a flaccid penis can
significantly affect how attractive a man's body is to women.
Writing in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (a journal commonly known by its initials as PNAS), Brian Mautz, Bob Wong, Richard Peters and Michael Jennions use a clever experimental manipulation of computer-generated imagery -- CGI
-- to test the effects of variation in penis size relative to height
and torso shape (shoulder width relative to waist width) on the
attractiveness of male bodies to women.
While they found that torso shape was by far the most important
determinant of attractiveness, penis size has about as much influence on
attractiveness as height.
It's the kind of science made for easy-reading 100 word news-porn in the tabloid press ("Size really does
matter"). Or for wowser columnists to work up a morning's indignation
that a scientist somewhere did something interesting when everybody
knows the rules:
Scientists should be finding new ways to extract coal-seam gas or
cure the cancers that tend to afflict late-middle-age columnists (see
the recent controversy when Fox News attacked Patricia Brennan's research on duck penises).
If Tom Waterhouse wasn't so busy swotting for Friday night football, he'd have already installed Mautz as hot favourite for the next igNobel Prize (for science that makes you laugh and then makes you think).
And yet for such a tabloid-ready topic, the paper itself is a study in how science should proceed in sober and restrained steps.
Evolution of penises
Genitalia tend to vary more dramatically than almost any other physical trait. And evolutionary biology has made stunning progress in resolving why.
For the most part, studies of animal penis size and shape have
focused on the effectiveness of various structures in delivering sperm
to where it needs to be, in removing sperm that a female had received
from previous mates, in stimulating the female to use that male's sperm,
or even inflicting damage on the female so she would not mate again.
One of the more striking features of the human penis, when compared
with other primates, is its length. Relative to body size, the human
penis dwarfs
that of bonobos, common chimpanzees, gorilla and orangutan. And our
erect stance and face-to-face social interactions make the penis a
highly conspicuous feature.
That conspicuousness has led anthroplogists and pop-scientists alike
to speculate on the potential for penises to act as a sexual signal.
Some have even suggested that a large penis may be a signal of more general health and vigour, and that the evolutionary loss of the human baculum (penis bone) may make the penis an honest signal because size and arousal can't be faked.
The function any preferences for penis size serve remain, for now,
largely in the province of hypothetical speculation. Because much
murkiness surrounds whether such preferences exist, and if so just how
important those preferences are.
Hot property
Titillating news stories, fictional references and even song lyrics
belie a persistent fascination with properties of the penis. That
fascination hints at a deeper, largely unspoken obsession with the links
between size, virility, masculinity and attractiveness.
Some might say that penis size presents an exclusively male obsession -- pointing to the importance of embellishments such as Renaissance codpieces and New Guinea phallocarps in male-male interactions. Are not men at least as obsessed about questions of size as women?
Unfortunately for this line of argument, men are expected to obsess about precisely the traits that women -- overtly or subtly -- use to discriminate among mates.
And a strong whiff of male insecurity about how women are likely to
judge their equipment inheres to most public discourse about penis size. What Goldilocks saw
Consider what I call the Goldilocks cop-out. Most media stories on
the topic of penis size conclude that as long as the penis in question
isn't way too big or way too small, it's likely to be "just right."
And within the large zone of "just-rightness," few commentators are willing to claim that size really matters.
The Goldilocks cop-out mollifies male insecurity. If evolutionary
pyschologists are right -- and I believe they are -- then men's
obsession with paternity presents a tectonic force shaping behaviour and
societies. It doesn't take much imagination to see that part of that
insecurity can be bound up in fears about penile inadequacy.
Makers of penis enlargers promising "extra inches" and purveyors of
nasal snake-oil guaranteeing "longer-lasting sex" exploit those fears.
Fears that they will never attract a mate. And fears in those who
already have a mate that they might inadvertently be raising another
man's progeny.
Measuring up
If one accepts women may have preferences for penises of a certain
size, one is left with the not-inconsiderable challenge of how to
measure such preferences. Asking people doesn't always work.
Women -- and men -- have all sorts of reasons to prevaricate, or to grow indignant that the question has even been asked.
My colleague Barnaby Dixson
used a series of five line drawings, manipulated to have different
sized flaccid penises, to study women's preferences in Cameroon, China,
New Zealand and the U.S.
He found that slightly larger than average penises tend to be favoured by women.
Important as this study was, it cannot illuminate how important penis
preferences are relative to other preferences -- such as for muscular
torsos or for taller men. If the only thing that varies among stimuli in
an experiment is the trait of interest, then we shouldn't be surprised
to find it has an effect.
And subjects quickly cotton on to what the experiment is about. Also,
the smallest and largest penises may have just looked strange, relative
to the body on which they had been drawn.
Enter the Avatar
Mautz and colleagues used a higher-tech method, building
three-dimensional computer models -- 343 models in all -- that varied in
torso shape, height and flaccid penis size.
They then showed each female subject a subset of 53 bodies, one at a
time, projected life-size on a wall, and asked them to rate the
attractiveness of each on a 7-point scale.
Still
images of three of the stimulus models, illustrating the extremes in
variation. At left: short stature, low shoulder: waist ratio, small
penis. Right: tall stature, large shoulder: waist ratio, large penis.
Centre: intermediate for all three traits. Dr Brian S. Mautz.Read More...
Here are some easy tips to help guide you through online dating so that you can weed out the bad.
I think that the pros of online dating
is as I have experienced them include the fact that you can scroll
through the people that you want and do not want. Although people lie,
it takes some of the guess work out of things about them. If you have a
list of what type of man you want, you can quickly eliminate people
based off of the answers to some of their questions. For example, if you
want someone who has a college education, who is a Christian, who has a
decent job, then you can rule out the profiles that say they are
non-religious and unemployed. If they are proud of themselves and what
they do, then more than likely they are going to be open and list these
things.
I can recall one man that I met online. He wanted me to give him my
number. Upon viewing his profile I found that many things were blank,
his education, employment, kids, I mean almost everything. What is the
big secret? So I kindly asked him what he did for a living. He actively
avoided my question several times. I decided to ask him one more time
and he told me I was either going to give him my number or I wasn't. I
chose not to. At the end of the day what is the big secret that you
cannot tell me where you work, what you do, or what type of field you
are in. What are you a drug dealer? This is not like I am asking you
classified information. So be wary of people that do not want to tell
you anything about themselves. They could either be married or losers, perhaps even a combination of both. What is the point of creating an online profile if everything on it is blank?
Also be wary of people who do not have a picture. If you are on a site looking for love,
then a person should not want to be super secretive. How are you going
to expect anyone to want to talk to you if you do not have a picture?
Most, if not all dating sites you cannot search other members unless you
are a member yourself. So they cannot say they are afraid of who will
see them. The same person that is seeing them is a member them self. If
they do not want to put a picture up, I fear that are hiding something,
mainly their wife or girlfriend who they don't want to find out that they are on the site.
Unconditional Love Banke has been in the banking industry for 7years when she met Toyin. Though, she was in her early 30s but not too desperate about getting married because of the busy nature of her job as a marketer. When Toyin initially approached her, she object because of Tony her fiancé in Germany.
Luckily enough for Toyin, Banke's cousin saw Tony with his wife and children in Germany. She then asked Tony in a way that he couldn't deny it and that was the end of the distance relationship. Initially it was painful for Banke because she practically foot all the bills for Tony's journey. She eventually got over it and now gave Toyin a full attention.
Banke did not know how to present Toyin to her dad because her mum is late. Her hesitation was due to the fact that; Toyin was still learning how to sell car spare parts, he lives in a room, he has only matress and fan and to crown it all-he is a Primary 6 graduate. He can not even use the base of a bottle to write zero. It was that bad.
Her mum called me and told me to talk my sister. I asked why. The mum said she wanted to kill herself because at 37, she has not got a man in her life. I called her and she said same. I said to her, you are 37 and complaining that you have not got a man, but I can show you a woman of 50 who has never dated, but still full of hope and I can still show you a 61 year old mother of her first child. Your case is not worse than others and as long as one lives, there is still hope, but walk along the way of that hope. Killing yourself does not bring the world to an end, but will just create a mess for us that you are leaving behind. She reasoned with me.
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