"Sisters, if you refuse to submit to your husband, you're missing out on the beauty of your very protection. It's important that when you're walking down the aisle, you believe in your husband & are ready to submit to him as he submits to The Lord. If you're not ready for that protection, you're not ready to get married. Submission doesn't mean that your husband runs all over you. Its totally opposite. You two can talk about everything but at the end of the day, God holds him responsible for the decisions in the house. Even if you don't totally understand his leadership SUBMIT & God will show you why and open crazy doors. If you constantly shut your husband down you will never find out why... where or when AND it wrecks your mans confidence. Pray earnestly that God leads your hubby through Jesus Christ. Submission is beautiful, if only we would stop running from it" -Heather Lindsey
A woman baked cake for members of her family and an extra one for a hungry passerby. She kept the extra cake on the window sill, for whosoever would take it away. Every day, a hunchback came and took away the cake. Instead of expressing gratitude, he muttered the following words as he went his way: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” This went on, day after day. Every day, the hunchback came, picked up the cake and uttered the words: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” The woman felt irritated. “Not a word of gratitude,” she said to herself… “Everyday this hunchback utters this jingle! What does he mean?” One day, exasperated, she decided to do away with him. “I shall get rid of this hunchback,” she said. And what did she do? She added poison to the cake she prepared for him!
As she was about to keep it on the window sill, her hands trembled. “What is this I am doing?” she said. Immediately, she threw the cake into the fire, prepared another one and kept it on the window sill. As usual, the hunchback came, picked up the cake and muttered the words: “The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!”
The hunchback proceeded on his way, blissfully unaware of the war raging in the mind of the woman. Every day, as the woman placed the cake on the window sill, she offered a prayer for her son who had gone to a distant place to seek his fortune. For many months, she had no news of him. She prayed for his safe return.
That evening, there was a knock on the door. As she opened it, she was surprised to find her son standing in the doorway. He had grown thin and lean. His garments were tattered and torn. He was hungry, starved and weak. As he saw his mother, he said, “Mom, it’s a miracle I’m here. While I was but a mile away, I was so famished that I collapsed. I would have died, but just then an old hunchback passed by. I begged of him for a morsel of food, and he was kind enough to give me a whole cake. As he gave it to me, he said, “This is what I eat everyday: today, I shall give it to you, for your need is greater than mine!”
As the mother heard those words, her face turned pale. She leaned against the door for support. She remembered the poisoned cake that she had made that morning. Had she not burnt it in the fire, it would have been eaten by her own son, and he would have lost his life!
It was then that she realized the significance of the words: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” Do good and Don’t ever stop doing good, even if it is not appreciated at that time.
If you like this, share it with others and I bet so many lives would be touched.
Authors from the Australian National University, Monash and La Trobe
provide the most complete answer yet: the size of a flaccid penis can
significantly affect how attractive a man's body is to women.
Writing in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (a journal commonly known by its initials as PNAS), Brian Mautz, Bob Wong, Richard Peters and Michael Jennions use a clever experimental manipulation of computer-generated imagery -- CGI
-- to test the effects of variation in penis size relative to height
and torso shape (shoulder width relative to waist width) on the
attractiveness of male bodies to women.
While they found that torso shape was by far the most important
determinant of attractiveness, penis size has about as much influence on
attractiveness as height.
It's the kind of science made for easy-reading 100 word news-porn in the tabloid press ("Size really does
matter"). Or for wowser columnists to work up a morning's indignation
that a scientist somewhere did something interesting when everybody
knows the rules:
Scientists should be finding new ways to extract coal-seam gas or
cure the cancers that tend to afflict late-middle-age columnists (see
the recent controversy when Fox News attacked Patricia Brennan's research on duck penises).
If Tom Waterhouse wasn't so busy swotting for Friday night football, he'd have already installed Mautz as hot favourite for the next igNobel Prize (for science that makes you laugh and then makes you think).
And yet for such a tabloid-ready topic, the paper itself is a study in how science should proceed in sober and restrained steps.
Evolution of penises
Genitalia tend to vary more dramatically than almost any other physical trait. And evolutionary biology has made stunning progress in resolving why.
For the most part, studies of animal penis size and shape have
focused on the effectiveness of various structures in delivering sperm
to where it needs to be, in removing sperm that a female had received
from previous mates, in stimulating the female to use that male's sperm,
or even inflicting damage on the female so she would not mate again.
One of the more striking features of the human penis, when compared
with other primates, is its length. Relative to body size, the human
penis dwarfs
that of bonobos, common chimpanzees, gorilla and orangutan. And our
erect stance and face-to-face social interactions make the penis a
highly conspicuous feature.
That conspicuousness has led anthroplogists and pop-scientists alike
to speculate on the potential for penises to act as a sexual signal.
Some have even suggested that a large penis may be a signal of more general health and vigour, and that the evolutionary loss of the human baculum (penis bone) may make the penis an honest signal because size and arousal can't be faked.
The function any preferences for penis size serve remain, for now,
largely in the province of hypothetical speculation. Because much
murkiness surrounds whether such preferences exist, and if so just how
important those preferences are.
Hot property
Titillating news stories, fictional references and even song lyrics
belie a persistent fascination with properties of the penis. That
fascination hints at a deeper, largely unspoken obsession with the links
between size, virility, masculinity and attractiveness.
Some might say that penis size presents an exclusively male obsession -- pointing to the importance of embellishments such as Renaissance codpieces and New Guinea phallocarps in male-male interactions. Are not men at least as obsessed about questions of size as women?
Unfortunately for this line of argument, men are expected to obsess about precisely the traits that women -- overtly or subtly -- use to discriminate among mates.
And a strong whiff of male insecurity about how women are likely to
judge their equipment inheres to most public discourse about penis size. What Goldilocks saw
Consider what I call the Goldilocks cop-out. Most media stories on
the topic of penis size conclude that as long as the penis in question
isn't way too big or way too small, it's likely to be "just right."
And within the large zone of "just-rightness," few commentators are willing to claim that size really matters.
The Goldilocks cop-out mollifies male insecurity. If evolutionary
pyschologists are right -- and I believe they are -- then men's
obsession with paternity presents a tectonic force shaping behaviour and
societies. It doesn't take much imagination to see that part of that
insecurity can be bound up in fears about penile inadequacy.
Makers of penis enlargers promising "extra inches" and purveyors of
nasal snake-oil guaranteeing "longer-lasting sex" exploit those fears.
Fears that they will never attract a mate. And fears in those who
already have a mate that they might inadvertently be raising another
man's progeny.
Measuring up
If one accepts women may have preferences for penises of a certain
size, one is left with the not-inconsiderable challenge of how to
measure such preferences. Asking people doesn't always work.
Women -- and men -- have all sorts of reasons to prevaricate, or to grow indignant that the question has even been asked.
My colleague Barnaby Dixson
used a series of five line drawings, manipulated to have different
sized flaccid penises, to study women's preferences in Cameroon, China,
New Zealand and the U.S.
He found that slightly larger than average penises tend to be favoured by women.
Important as this study was, it cannot illuminate how important penis
preferences are relative to other preferences -- such as for muscular
torsos or for taller men. If the only thing that varies among stimuli in
an experiment is the trait of interest, then we shouldn't be surprised
to find it has an effect.
And subjects quickly cotton on to what the experiment is about. Also,
the smallest and largest penises may have just looked strange, relative
to the body on which they had been drawn.
Enter the Avatar
Mautz and colleagues used a higher-tech method, building
three-dimensional computer models -- 343 models in all -- that varied in
torso shape, height and flaccid penis size.
They then showed each female subject a subset of 53 bodies, one at a
time, projected life-size on a wall, and asked them to rate the
attractiveness of each on a 7-point scale.
Still
images of three of the stimulus models, illustrating the extremes in
variation. At left: short stature, low shoulder: waist ratio, small
penis. Right: tall stature, large shoulder: waist ratio, large penis.
Centre: intermediate for all three traits. Dr Brian S. Mautz.Read More...
Here are some easy tips to help guide you through online dating so that you can weed out the bad.
I think that the pros of online dating
is as I have experienced them include the fact that you can scroll
through the people that you want and do not want. Although people lie,
it takes some of the guess work out of things about them. If you have a
list of what type of man you want, you can quickly eliminate people
based off of the answers to some of their questions. For example, if you
want someone who has a college education, who is a Christian, who has a
decent job, then you can rule out the profiles that say they are
non-religious and unemployed. If they are proud of themselves and what
they do, then more than likely they are going to be open and list these
things.
I can recall one man that I met online. He wanted me to give him my
number. Upon viewing his profile I found that many things were blank,
his education, employment, kids, I mean almost everything. What is the
big secret? So I kindly asked him what he did for a living. He actively
avoided my question several times. I decided to ask him one more time
and he told me I was either going to give him my number or I wasn't. I
chose not to. At the end of the day what is the big secret that you
cannot tell me where you work, what you do, or what type of field you
are in. What are you a drug dealer? This is not like I am asking you
classified information. So be wary of people that do not want to tell
you anything about themselves. They could either be married or losers, perhaps even a combination of both. What is the point of creating an online profile if everything on it is blank?
Also be wary of people who do not have a picture. If you are on a site looking for love,
then a person should not want to be super secretive. How are you going
to expect anyone to want to talk to you if you do not have a picture?
Most, if not all dating sites you cannot search other members unless you
are a member yourself. So they cannot say they are afraid of who will
see them. The same person that is seeing them is a member them self. If
they do not want to put a picture up, I fear that are hiding something,
mainly their wife or girlfriend who they don't want to find out that they are on the site.
Unconditional Love Banke has been in the banking industry for 7years when she met Toyin. Though, she was in her early 30s but not too desperate about getting married because of the busy nature of her job as a marketer. When Toyin initially approached her, she object because of Tony her fiancé in Germany.
Luckily enough for Toyin, Banke's cousin saw Tony with his wife and children in Germany. She then asked Tony in a way that he couldn't deny it and that was the end of the distance relationship. Initially it was painful for Banke because she practically foot all the bills for Tony's journey. She eventually got over it and now gave Toyin a full attention.
Banke did not know how to present Toyin to her dad because her mum is late. Her hesitation was due to the fact that; Toyin was still learning how to sell car spare parts, he lives in a room, he has only matress and fan and to crown it all-he is a Primary 6 graduate. He can not even use the base of a bottle to write zero. It was that bad.
Her mum called me and told me to talk my sister. I asked why. The mum said she wanted to kill herself because at 37, she has not got a man in her life. I called her and she said same. I said to her, you are 37 and complaining that you have not got a man, but I can show you a woman of 50 who has never dated, but still full of hope and I can still show you a 61 year old mother of her first child. Your case is not worse than others and as long as one lives, there is still hope, but walk along the way of that hope. Killing yourself does not bring the world to an end, but will just create a mess for us that you are leaving behind. She reasoned with me.
By: Front Cover Rufus Ade
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as when one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see." ?
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the
Nelson Mandela, whose victory against apartheid united his native South Africa and changed the course of modern history, has died following a long illness.
The Nobel Peace laureate, who spent nearly three decades as a political prisoner before going on to lead his country, passed away at his Johannesburg home surrounded by his family.
South African President Jacob Zuma said "the nation has lost its greatest son", adding "he is now resting. He is now at peace".
Mr Mandela, who was 95, will get a state funeral and
national flags will be lowered to half mast, said Mr Zuma.
Mr Mandela had been receiving medical treatment for the last three years for a prolonged lung infection and for the last six months had been critically ill.READ MORE
"Sisters, if you refuse to submit to your husband, you're missing out on the beauty of your very protection. It's important that when you're walking down the aisle, you believe in your husband & are ready to submit to him as he submits to The Lord. If you're not ready for that protection, you're not ready to get married. Submission doesn't mean that your husband runs all over you. Its totally opposite. You two can talk about everything but at the end of the day, God holds him responsible for the decisions in the house. Even if you don't totally understand his leadership SUBMIT & God will show you why and open crazy doors. If you constantly shut your husband down you will never find out why... where or when AND it wrecks your mans confidence. Pray earnestly that God leads your hubby through Jesus Christ. Submission is beautiful, if only we would stop running from it" -Heather Lindsey
A real relationship must have simple fights, trust, faith, tears, and genuine laughter. Jealousy, Communication, patience, weird/stupid unnecessary arguments; no secrets, unselfish love and most importantly there must be forgiveness on both sides.
No one is perfect on earth, we all make mistakes in our relationships but the best solution is to accept your mistakes and say SORRY to your loved one. It’s a simple 5 letter word but means a lot. Many of us find it so hard to use it, but it only eases the tension between lovers. Say it and meant it.
If you get to think of moving on because you’re pissed, my dear think of where you’re going, the time you will take to find & fit into a new relationship, The imperfectness you will find with that new lover might be incomparable to the one you dumped, then you will start regretting and wishing you never dumped her/him. Think about it my dear friends having it in minds that WE HAVE GOT NO ANGELS ON EARTH. We’re the ones to transform our BFs/GFs to be like the angels we desire. So be proud of the one you have got and fight all the challenges that are trying to tear you apart.
Right now you may be seeing your guy/girl as a fake person but some dude/girl is somewhere seeing him as a handsome king/beautiful queen. They’re wishing and praying you fall apart for them to replace you. Guard your relationship.
"An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backwards. When life is
dragging you back with difficulties, it means it's going to launch you
into something great. So just focus, and keep aiming"
Let your Idea grow, let it pervade your mind. let it become a child of your brain; and like a normal child, it would grow when you are least conscious of it.
A guy (Names withheld) dated a girl for 2 years without sexual intercourse. Even after the Introduction, the girl did not allow him to touch her so a wedding date was fixed. The day before the wedding was the bachelors eve so all his friends were in attendance with their girlfriends and fun rented the air. It was wild and captivating, in time he became horny from watching his friends and their partners and again his Fiancee turned him down begging him to wait a little longer. At last the D-Day came and the groom was patiently waiting for the wedding to come to an end. Finally they became Man and Wife!
Back in their matrimonial home, the man invited his woman to the bathroom but she refused that she is too shy to take a bath with him. After that he made passes but she complained of tiredness and needed some rest. He got mad and left her alone. At 10pm, a 5 man armed robbers attacked the neighborhood and their apartment was not spared. They robbed them and decided to rape the wife. The first devirginized her and others took turns in ravaging her. She lost her consciousness and was rushed to the hospital. After she regained her consciousness, her dear husband sent her packing.
Did he do the right thing by sending her away? What would you do if you were in his shoes?
Every woman's dream is to get married someday, even the divorced wants to remarry. Despite the number of separation and divorce daily, many are still dreaming of their wedding day. It's beautiful and encouraging but how many of these women and of course men have really taken their time to prepare for MARRIAGE? Do they even realize that marriage is worth preparing for?
Marriage is an institution, yes but unlike other institutions, no one ever graduates. But you can earn your certificates as the years roll by in many forms- raising wonderful kids is one. In this institution, you are expected to be the lecturer and not the student so ill preparation leads to frustrations, fight, heartbreaks and poverty in many cases.
GUIDELINE
1) Invest your time and resources in yourself as a single man/woman. Formal Education is a very good way but to be double-sure, learn a trade, craft, bead making anything that will boost your income.
2) Attend seminars on marital issues, learn from the experienced. You don't have to get burnt to learn. The best way to learn is by observation especially in this case.
3) Find someone, do not attempt to change that man/woman into your idea of a spouse. study them. Can you tolerate him/her?
4) Understand that your Love for each other may take a leave sometimes, be prepared to keep the family together until Love gets back. 5) Money Managment. This is very very important as the lack of money causes friction in a marriage. Enroll for some causes in finances and better learn how to manage the family income and expenditure.
6) Create a forgiving heart because in Marriage, you'll find many reasons to throw in the towel.
7) When the going gets tough, get tougher. Seek marital therapy not divorce.
Ask all the hard questions before marriage. Know the difference between Marriage & Wedding. Unite your goals and watch them grow in a few years when the time seems right, then settle down.
If you prepare yourselves adequately before going into marriage, the burden will be minimal and you will experience the Joy of Marriage. You will never have to ask the question 'Are you the woman/man I married?' ------------Joe Ochei
Someone once said that 'There are no secrets to Happiness; Happiness is the Secret'. LOL. I pondered over that and came to the conclusion: He/She is right. Happiness is the secret that opens all other doors of success. It prepares you for everyday and every task. It brings you to the right people and at the right places. It prevents cardiac related diseases and makes TODAY worth living and TOMORROW worth seeing. There is never an overdoes of it and the BEST part of it is that its not for SALE. It's free!!! and based on choice so if you don't already have an overdose of it, then it's time you take it. It won't kill but keep you. Do this: Ignore YESTERDAY'S problems because they belong to yesterday; Do not be troubled by TODAY'S challenges, they are there because you can handle them; And think not about what TOMORROW brings, for its always better than Today.
Encyclopedia Britannica Online described the recession that hit the world recently as ''The worst economy in a generation.'' It was so severe that it has been given a unique name, the Great Recession. Economists came to the conclusion that it was caused by 'A frenzy of irresponsible borrowing.' Not many of us escaped that recession. I too, was affected and still have some scars from that burn.
I've just started reading a book by Chris Farrell titled The New Frugality. In it he states that
Today I feel different. A vibrant hardworking young man and today I feel useless, helpless and hopeless. It's like I've lost it. My drive for excellence have been overtaken by anger and destructive ideas. I don't understand me anymore. Feels like a wasted year- January to November, what is left? Yet another year of ideas gone down the drain. How many more failures, How many more delays and How many more heartbreaks. No one understands even when they say 'I understand'. This day was my future some years back; Did all I could to make this Future a bright one but look where I am. I am done hearing testimonies. When am I going to become the man of my dreams? How am I supposed to help when I am in need of help?
I welcome 2014 in fear and distrust...So many Expectations, Challenges. Plenty of ideas with no means to bring them to life.
Now that I've poured out my heart, life must go on, I believe every Champion faced a handful of challenges. Help may not come so I have to pick up myself, dust and carry on. -----Joe Ochei
When your hope lies in God, nothing can move you. I sat down this morning calling back to mind so many days of distress and how God delivered me even before I asked for it. Although sometimes, it seems he pays deaf ears to my calls, making me wonder if he is still with me. But at the end of the day, I do come to understand him better. He is never far off from his people. He is simply a 'FAITHFUL FATHER.'
I came to understand that one learn more when you open your heart to new ideas,leaving what you already know at bay. Kids surprisingly teach me a lot without they knowing it. No matter how educated you may be,there is always something to learn from an illiterate because in another way less formal, he/she is a literate. A man once said ''Everyman is my superior in some way,in that I learn of them''. Be liberal and keep learning.
Snake feeds on ants while alive but as soon as it dies its vise visa versa. Time can turn at any time, Don't devalue anyone in life. You may be powerful But time is more powerful than you are. A tree produces millions of match sticks, while a match stick can burn hundred of trees". One Negative Thought can Burn down ALL POSITIVE THOUGHTS. Be mindful how u relate wit people.life is full of drama.
Everything that man needs to lead a fulfilled life is embodied in loving oneself and others.So many have never laughed, and so many have died before they could understand the sole purpose in life- HAPPINESS, which is actually a CHOICE. There are reasons to frown 24 hrs a day through out one's life time but your ability to solve some and ignore the rest means a lot. I see no reason why I will develop a heart attack, high blood pressure when I know that the keys to my happiness are in my hands. Challenges must come but we have everything it takes to trample them.
I am no Saint but a man who have had his fare share of life and have come to learn valuable lessons that I wished Ive learned earlier. Life is simple: eat when you have, laugh when you can, blame no one for your problems, solve the ones you can and think less of the past but let your heart be filled with hope for all the goodies that tomorrow brings.Shalom
'ANGER'- The easiest escape from frustrations. Blaming others for our problems is another way but none solves the problem. Problem or challenge as some of Us choose to call it are part of our daily lives. They are the fuel we need to drive our hopes and aspirations skyward. If you believe this, then its time you take advantage of every problem you have or will ever encounter. With every problem comes a solution, they go hand in hand. Some challenges stay with Us longer than anticipated but that is because they are there to take Us to a Whole New Level in life. So whenever 'ANGER' crops into your heart, convert it to happiness, one best way is to share your problems by talking about it with a listening ear.- Joe Ochei
Obesity is one of the most common and most dangerous illnesses of the
21st century, and it affects millions of people all around the world.
The causes of obesity are many: while some claim that some people are
born with a genetic predisposition to becoming overweight during the
course of their lives, others say that the underlying cause is purely
nutritional and that we are what we eat. One thing is for sure, though:
the first step towards reaching a normal weight is getting the necessary
ambition and determination, as these are the key ingredients to losing
weight. Making The First Step
When I saw this image of a Mother overworking herself to fend for her Children, tears welled up in my eyes. I remembered what my Mother went through bringing me and my siblings up although not without the help of my Father. So, even though it's not Mother's Day, I dedicate this post to every mother out there especially the single Parent.
What a life! Who do you blame? Six married women became pregnant for their pastor of the same church and their husband worship there as well. I have sat down to think about it. It makes me wonder how some women think. This is where you worship with your family and you knew the man too was married and you flirt with him till you became pregnant for him. OK, true, the sacked pastor might have made a move, what about refusing? Where then went self control? Would you have acted differently in such situation?
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